Death of Marriage and Western Society
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"Marriage [is] honourable in all, and the bed undefiled; but God will judge fornicators and adulterers." (Heb 13:4)
"and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their evil-doing." (Rom 1:27)
God has ordained marriage as a lifelong union of a man and a woman. This foundational principle was first articulated biblically in Gen 2:24. Later, Jesus set forth His basic position on marriage by bringing together two important passages from Gen 1:27; 2:7-25. He pointed to the completion of the creation: "male and female he created them" thus defining what marriage is. Then He described marriage as a relationship, a union, so intimate and real that "the two become one flesh." Finally, Jesus reiterated and emphasised that true marriage was God-made and lifelong.
"4 But answering, He said to them, Have you not read that He who created [them] from the beginning "created them male and female"? [Gen 1:27] 5 And He said, "For this reason a man shall leave father and mother, and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh." [Gen 2:24] 6 So that they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let not man separate." (Mat 19:4-6) Here Jesus states clearly that marriage consist in the official union of a man and a woman (and nothing else), moreover He makes a clear reference that a true marriage is made under God thus requiring that the marriage be performed on this earth by His representative, meaning that civil marriages are not marriages at all under Biblical terms. Indeed, in the Bible, God’s ministers performed all examples of marriages.
Also, Paul quotes these passages from both Genesis and Jesus, almost verbatim, in two of his New Testament books (1Co 6:15-17 and in Eph 5:30-32). Moreover Paul in Ephesians 5:30-32 equates marriage between a man and a woman as paralleling the relationship between Christ and His Church. A theological view which is a development of the Old Testament view that saw a parallel between marriage and the relationship between God and Israel (Eph 5:22-33; also Rev 19:7 ff). Indeed Paul commands marriage to avoid Fornication or Adultery (1Co 7:8-9).
A proper marriage is a solemn covenant for life (not just a piece of paper) between a man and a woman authenticated by a minister of God in front of witnesses. It is a serious and holy thing.
All sexual relations outside a proper marriage between a man and a woman are sin of fornication (sex between unmarried) or adultery (sex between married but not to each other). Homosexual sex is a gross sin attracting the death penalty, as is Adultery/Fornication (Lev 20:13; Deu 22:20,21; Lev 20:10).
This means that the ‘de facto’ relationships between man and woman and also between same-sex are gross sins and definitely not a marriage, for marriage is honourable and holy, instituted and commanded by God in specific terms, whilst these are not.
In ‘de facto’ relationships there is the problem of the ensuing children, for they are bastards, as defined since the beginning of time: "bastard = the circumstance of being born of parents who are not married to one another". The Bible is quite severe on these offspring: "A bastard shall not enter into the congregation of the LORD; even to his tenth generation shall he not enter into the congregation of the LORD." (Deu 23:2) To remove this stigma they started calling these bastards "love children" as if children born in a legitimate marriage were not. Now they are passing laws to equalize these bastards to legitimate children, thus the word "bastard" will be removed from the dictionary.
The modern Christian church at large has not escaped liberal influences of the so-called "sexual revolution". An indication of such influences is greater tolerance (approving sin) within the church of couples living together without marriage (‘de facto’ cohabitation, and if sexual, fornication), extramarital affairs (adultery) and no-fault divorce, and even homosexuality (abomination). This is happening in spite of the fact that these practices conflict with doctrinal beliefs present in Christianity since the beginning. Such churches will have to render an account to God for allowing or even consenting to these heinous sins.
Indeed in our democratic society the ungodly and socialistic governments are slowly (not so slowly) destroying the marriage institution as given by God and legalising any sort of union as a "marriage" thus changing its meaning as first given. For example a union between homosexuals is deemed to be a "marriage" which is total nonsense for a true marriage requires 3 things: man and woman, a godly ceremony and procreation of children, an impossible thing with homosexuals. Likewise with ‘de facto’ relationship, they may be man-woman and even have offspring, but they lack approval by God.
Marriage is at the basis of the family, destroy the marriage and the family is destroyed. Feminists are busily implementing this very aim as stated by their gurus: «Sheila Cronam: "Given that marriage is slavery for women, it is clear that the feministic institution must concentrate to attack the institution of marriage. Freedom for women cannot be won without the abolition of marriage"». The "Declaration of Feminism" says: «the end of marriage is necessary for the liberation of women; we are to return to the ancient female religions and magical arts».
Recently a sociologist stated:
«There are strong pressures to dissolve the concept of traditional marriage/family by vehemently attaching the figure of the father. If the father could be replaced by a test tube, a stranger or kicked out altogether, then the marriage/family would not exist anymore. This aim is very dear to a vast political rank, ideological groups and in fashion to destroy the figure of the father. Statistics over thirty years demonstrate that the demise of the father is at the origin of the major ills of the children, from suicides to drug addiction, to violent and antisocial behaviour. Thus the anti-father crusade is vexing itself for everyday brings data and elements contrary to its programme».
That marriage is dying out is quite visible in the Western countries deemed to be the most democratic, like Scandinavia, where marriage-like same-sex registered partnerships has been in operation for over a decade.
In those countries statistics show that a majority of children in Sweden and Norway are now born out of wedlock, as are 60 percent of first-born children in Denmark. In socially liberal districts of Norway, where the idea of same-sex registered partnerships is widely accepted, marriage itself has almost entirely disappeared.
True, the Scandinavia's system of registered partnerships is not the only cause of marital deterioration. Factors as direct legacy from democracy like contraception, abortion, women in the work force, individualism, secularism, and the welfare state are also at work. Indeed, these democratic factors are weakening marriage throughout the West notably as a direct result of strong secularism. Beyond doubt there are numerous attacks upon human life and the family through abortion, contraception, euthanasia, eugenics, divorce, the mistakenly-termed ‘new forms of the family,’ homosexual unions, and even through the policies and agendas of international organizations. These factors and the attacks on the right to religious and moral education bring about the breakdown of the family and society. Indeed we are in profound decadence.
What has accelerated this downgrade of marriage is a sharp cultural separation between the ideas of marriage and parenthood.
The growing separation of marriage and parenthood made it difficult to deny marriage to same-sex couples and reinforcing the separation between the ideas of marriage and parenthood, has also accelerated marital decline.
Statistic shows that where these same sex arrangements have been legalised (de facto gay "marriages") and have gained almost complete acceptance, marriage itself has almost completely disappeared.
Disturbing numbers about this issue from many countries show that the family is rapidly becoming an endangered institution throughout much of the Western world. We are very much concerned about "endangered species to extinction"; well we should also include marriage/family in that list.
Civilizations, like most other structures, are constructed piece by piece. Marriage is the basic building block of the family. The family is the building block of the community. The community is the building block of the city. The city is the building block of the state or province. The state or province is the building block of the nation. The nation is the building block of civilization. “18 A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit. 19 Every tree that brings not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire.” (Mat 7:18-19)
If any of these building blocks are faulty, the entire structure begins to falter and, if not propped up, will eventually collapse.
Childfree spells Doom
Only 50 years ago it would have been a shameful thing for a woman to be childless, these days it is a good thing.
Childless or childfree? Not so long ago, all women without children were known as childless, with its implication of a state of loss. Nowadays, a growing number of women are insisting on the term childfree - with its emphasis on liberation and a thing to be proud of.
Here is a warped kind of thinking on the issue: Mariah who lives in the city of Linkoping, Sweden, says that over the past few years, she has met more and more Swedes who are opting for a childfree lifestyle. "I was sterilised at the age of 25. It's a choice I have never regretted," she says. "Once I had made the decision, I felt stronger as a woman. I have a long-term partner and he is happy with my decision."
If the Western world does not produce children any more, soon it will have a population composed mostly of old people and beside the severe sociological implications it will be an easy picking for the Islamic hordes.
Sadly, as the statistics cited above show, the cracks that started to appear in earnest a generation ago are steadily widening. Crime, poverty, drug and alcohol abuse, sexual perversion, rampant women, child abuse and the like are among the bitter fruits we're reaping. No community, nation or civilization can survive if such problems continue to worsen.
Just what changed in recent decades to bring about such profound shifts in attitudes toward marriage and family? One major change has been the loss of stigma surrounding divorce and illegitimate (bastard) children brought about by the above factors.
The demise of marriage and the family and consequently that of Western culture is clearly written on the wall for all those that have an eye to see and understand. This is exactly what happened to old Israel throughout the ages and God has always used the Ishmaelite to punish His wayward and rebellious children, as we see right now this very scenario unfolding under our eyes. Sadly the days of our society are numbered and the end is truly near, because we have listened and embraced the Lie from the Pit.
Come Lord, come quickly.
This very sorry state of things has been brought about as a direct consequence of abandoning God and embracing an ungodly political system (a modern form of Trojan horse) that we Westerner value very much: i. e. Democracy.