Fatherhood: A Divine Commission.
By Lien of Oz
When I think of the greatness of this great plan I fall on my knees before God the Father [ from whom all fatherhood, earthly or heavenly, derives its name], and I pray that out of the glorious richness of His resources he will enable you to know the strength of the Spirit's inner re-enforcement _ that Christ may actual live in your hearts by faith. (Eph 3:14,15 Phillip's)
Father represents God on earth as :
· Priest for God to the family- interceding for the family.
· Prophet - hearing from God.
· King to rule , guide and guard his family.
No man however can rule unless he has established prayer communication and knows (hears) what God desires for his family.
Fatherhood is a divine office. Constituted under Christ as his head a man likewise is to be head or leader of his family. (Eph 5:23) God by His grace will enable you to be a father. For, "The will of God will never place you - Father - in any place where His grace will never keep you."
If a man cannot rule his home he loses not only respect for himself but forfeits the respect of his family.
1Ti 5:8 concerning the personal character of elders................" If any (Elder) provide not for his own
especially those of his own house (or family) he has denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel (an unbeliever)." Such a man should not even profess to be a Christian.
One who provides is the steward of family pro-vision; material as breadwinner and spiritual priest, prophet and king.
The expression breadwinner derives from the one who wins the bread (food and sustenance). He should therefore take the functioning role of ruling (governing or leading) in the home. Today's two income family has gravely impacted upon this ideal. An a great majority of men have totally abdicated.
If a man is to recover his place in the home he should at least follow these five steps.
1. Recognise your position before God.
2. Admit your mistakes and failures to God and to your family.
3. Accept responsibility by God's grace.
4. Review your priorities. ( Family, home, sport, mates, Church, work etc)
5. Trust God for His grace to fulfil your divine office.
Some may say - "If I were to change now my whole family would object. It would be too much of a shock. They would never adjust." TRUE! However after they recover from the shock they will know that at last they have a man in the home. 80% of all women want to see a man take responsibility in their home; responsibility NOT authoritative dominance.
When a man does not take his rightful place in the home something is out of order. No nation can remain great for more than two generations if this disorder is allowed to continue.
When any father (or mother for that matter) relinquishes responsibility for disciplined parenting, some other or something else will fill that void. Today it is their peers and the media.
What are the modern day consequences of men failing to rule and teach godly principles in their homes?
The consequences of disobedience = curses.
"And it shall come to pass if thou shalt not hearken unto the voice of the Lord thy God to observe to do all His commandments......................................Thou shall beget sons and daughters but thou shall not enjoy them, for they shall go into captivity". (Deu 28:20,41).
Far too many fathers have failed. They have forgotten how to enjoy and relate to their children. One major consequence remains, these children are now made captive to delinquency, drugs, the occult, illicit sex, violence and crime.
Hosea 4:6 "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge (of God) because thou has rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, thou shalt be no more a priest before me: seeing thou has forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget they children". ( see also Is.5:13 cf.2Pe 1:5)
I will forget thy children! We exist now in the generation of God forsaking children. A nation of forgotten children.
There is in God's order cause and effect. Because fathers have forgotten the Law of the Lord they expect and let mums do what ever they can. Mums always seem to be able to step into the void vacated by renegade dads. The problem of the age - lazy men – is a learned pattern of behaviour.
Nevertheless:- "Behold , I will send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the Lord and he shall turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to the fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse."(Mal 4:5,6)
Note, it is the hearts of fathers toward their children not mothers. In the days of Elijah the prophet Israel was a woman dominated Nation. Weak and lazy King Ahab had married and allowed Jezebel (worshipper of Baal) to rule the land. A major problem in today's society, (infecting also the Church) is the spirit of Jezebel. A culture given over by weak men to the influence of unseen witchcraft.
It is by God's design and stated intension that a man should LEAD his wife and children.
This is a concept that flies in the face of contemporary society and culture. A social culture beset on every hand by cries for women's rights backed by militant women's lib. There is also the cry for female priests to lead churches. Women to lead corporations and places of high office in nations. Women now lead some of the most oppressed nations of the world as their Prime Minister or President. Today's affirmative action has resulted largely because of the failure of men to behave responsibly and to be the kind of men women respond instead of the generations of men who have maintained power by arrogant dominance.
If some newspaper today should pick up on Apostle Paul's statement :- " I do not allow a woman to exercise authority over a man........because Adam was created first...." He world be challenged by every TV talk show and newspaper in the land. He would be vilified as sexist, as small minded bigot or ridiculed as an arrogant misogynist.
Fathers you are called to stem this tide and turn your heart to your children thereby to avert the course of the threatened curse which will otherwise invade the land.
In Godhead there are different functions yet a unity exists and there is an equality between Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Yet the Son subordinates Himself to the Father and the Holy Spirit to the Son. " He does not speak of Himself but glorifies the Son." [see Joh 16:13,14]
Equality does not therefore mean sameness. Equal does not indicate the need to be identical.
Equality in value is something else. Male and female are absolutely equal in value and worth before God.
God has appointed man to lead his family. He is head of the family. It is because most men have failed to accept this role and function that problems in families and in the world arise.