In Praise of Traditional Women
By Henry Makow Ph.D.
January 25, 2004
I am grateful that I am married to a traditional woman.
I do not sacrifice any freedom for love. I am in charge. My wife is comfortable with that. I am twice as free as when I was single.
My wife is passive by nature. Passivity is the natural female principle. The marriage of active (male) and passive (female) is the basis of heterosexuality.
But it is heresy to say so.
Women are actually ashamed to want to be homemakers. How did this happen? How did motherhood go from being honored to being stigmatized? This change in attitude is the trajectory of Illuminist subversion of America. Obviously the Illuminists prefer women to be corporate widgets rather than wives and mothers. (I'll elaborate below.)
A woman needs a man to love her. The notion that she should be "independent" and career oriented is absurd. As if fighting traffic, or pounding a mail route is superior to staying home and caring for her loved ones. As if obeying a boss is superior to obeying the man she chose to love and marry.
There is no greater blessing than a woman whose grace, beauty and love warms a home like sunshine. There is no greater gift than the precious love she gives husband and children.
THE PASSIVE (FEMALE) PRINCIPLE
The passive principle is the earth principle. The earth receives sunshine, water and seed and produces life. A woman receives a man's love and seed and after a period of gestation, she performs the miracle of giving birth to a human being.
Carrying and nurturing the young is the essence of female psychology. The denial of this reveals the Illuminists' desire to override nature and control all human life.
Being a wife and mother is what makes a woman tick. She needs to be intensely needed and loved by her husband and children.
These roles are passive by nature. They involve a great deal of adaptation. But they also require a different sort of activity. A wife responds to her husband's needs and a mother responds to her child's.
A woman is not going to be loved permanently just for her appearance, which is transitory, or for her accomplishments. Love is not like that. We love the people who sacrifice themselves for us. That proves they love us.
Men also sacrifice by working to support their families and providing love and direction. Happiness can only be found in love, not self-seeking. Love is self-sacrifice. Human beings were designed to look after each other.
In contrast, Illuminism sees "freedom" as thumbing your nose at God and living for yourself. This is not the "truth that will make you free."
The model I am describing used to be second nature. It has become esoteric knowledge. It is not for everyone. I offer it to those looking for an alternative to feminist dysfunction. You will find your own balance.
Marriage is under constant assault. This formula has worked for centuries and still works today.
THE ACTIVE (MALE) PRINCIPLE
Women want to look up to their husbands. They tend to seek men who are older and more successful. Why? They want their husband to be like their father was (or should have been), capable, reliable, protective and nurturing.
More than anything, they are seeking emotional and physical security. They feel most secure when they feel possessed by a strong, loving man.
A man should prepare himself for this role. He should have a clear vision of what he wants to do with his life. If he is lost, he might ask God how he can serve Him.
A man's work should be his first priority and source of self-confidence. In contrast a woman was not designed to get primary meaning from career. For her, career is secondary to being loved and needed.
Despite what feminists say, a man should never show weakness. The essence of masculinity is power. If he is weak, he loses a woman's respect. If he lacks confidence, he should gain it by setting goals and achieving them.
A man should never succumb to emotional blackmail. If a woman is withholding love or sulking, he should give her time to get over it.
A man should know what role he wants his wife to play. A man usually chooses on the basis of sexual attraction. What else does he want? I appreciate my wife's reasonableness, intelligence, competence, and sense of humour.
Most women were meant to be wives and mothers. A man should think about becoming a father and the responsibility this entails. He is not only providing for his offspring, but also teaching them how to be human beings.
A man will not care about something that doesn't belong to him. He should find a woman who is prepared to surrender power in exchange for love. Marriage is about union, two people becoming one. For women, surrender of power is the essence of love. If a woman can't trust a man with her whole life, she doesn't love him and shouldn't marry him.
Marriage is about possession and being possessed, which most men and women crave. A successful union is the only thing that satisfies the spiritual hunger underlying the sex drive, and prevents wander lust.
The heterosexual contract is this. The husband has the power and he does his best within reason to make his wife happy. A man cannot love a woman if he doesn't have the power to grant her wishes.
But a man must keep his end of the contract, or the marriage is off. He must be loyal, and show every day how much he appreciates that she is his wife.
CUTTING THROUGH THE FOG: THE STALINIZATION OF LOVE
The vast majority of people find their identity and values in family. Destroy the family and the state is in control.
Incredible as it sounds, the Illuminists are building a world police state. The international bankers finagled the right to create money out of nothing and collect interest on it. They need a police state to protect this racket and make sure no country defaults. They own the mass media, politicians, and dominate big business.
Feminism is the cover for a sophisticated illuminist propaganda program. We have been brainwashed.
Nobody has a problem with treating women as equal to men. Feminism treats women as though they were men. It portrays heterosexuality as pathology and degrades and discriminates against men. Women are often favored for jobs so they won't have children and men can't support families.
Society is being sabotaged. Alas, this is what the "war on terror" is really about, enslaving the world, not protecting it.
The Illuminist bankers created Communism to control the common man. Communists started second-wave feminism. Read "Betty Friedan: Mommy was a Commie" and "American Communism and the Making of Women's Liberation"
Bella Dodd, a former leader of the American Communist Party revealed: "The bourgeois family as a social unit was to be made obsolete." The aim was to "create a new type of human being that would conform to the world they confidently expected to control."
The bankers use Communism is to overthrow the Christian foundations of civilization and put themselves in charge. This is the true meaning of revolution.
The Rockefeller Foundation funds feminism. I searched this name and "Women's Studies" in Google and got 21,800 entries. They have funded population control and eugenics research for decades, here, in the USSR and in Nazi Germany.
With women usurping the male role, we are becoming a homosexual society. There is a difference between accepting homosexuals as equals, which I do, and allowing society as a whole to become homosexual.
Sound extreme? Consider this.
Homosexuality is the inability to form a permanent bond with a member of the opposite sex. It is commonly characterized by an obsession with sex, promiscuity and explicitness. Sex becomes a surrogate for love. Doesn't this describe society today? See "Playboy and the (Homo) Sexual Revolution."
The Illuminists aren't afraid of gays, single mothers or children. They are afraid of proud men with guns who have families to protect. This is behind the degradation of men.
A current ad for Swanson's TV Dinners goes like this. Working mom asked for a big bowl she can eat on the run. Swanson responded. Kids wanted something for after school. Swanson responded. "Dad wanted to wear mom's frilly under things!" Picture father with a goofy smile. "We didn't know how to respond."
Let Swanson know what you think of this commercial. Media_Inquiries@pinnaclefoodscorp.com
"First You Get the Women, Then You've Got the Children, So Follow the Men" -Adolph Hitler
We can fight the New World Order by having strong male-led families.
After many marital mishaps, I now have a frictionless marriage. My wife and I complement each other. She doesn't compete, criticize, complain or try to control. She tells me if something is wrong. I try to make her happy. She's part of me.
Because of her passive nature, I don't feel like I must constantly live up to her expectations. Rather she allows me to propose. Usually, she assents. When she doesn't, we compromise. Her acquiescence empowers and completes me.
I love her. She commits the unpardonable crime. She is good to a man.
Henry Makow, is the inventor of the board game Scruples, and the author of A Long Way to go for a Date. He received his Ph.D. in English Literature from the University of Toronto. He welcomes your feedback and ideas at firstname.lastname@example.org.